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Here we are on the cusp of May; almost five months into the
year and no sign of the nice man I am to meet. Yup, he is one of my resolutions for this year;
meet a nice man for companionship.
Actually, he was one of my goals last year as well. So far, there’s no
sign of him. He sure is elusive.
Where are the older men? They can’t all be living like
hermits. Are they all in relationships?
Have they tried the dating scene and given up? Have they migrated to
younger women? Well, some of them have. I seldom see older men on their own.
You can guaranty if there’s an older man pushing a grocery cart or walking
around a store, his partner is not far off.
I complain about not meeting anyone, but truth be told, I am
not looking that hard. Actually, I am not looking at all. If it happens, so be
it. I have walked the married/in a relationship road with less than stellar
results. I have found myself putting up with shoddy behaviour and wondered why,
since outside my marriage when my girls were little, I was never financially
dependent on anyone. It was not like I was fulfilling my dreams of travel with
any of them, or dinners, theatre, tours. No, these relationships were basic;
dinner, movie, dance and a picnic once a year. Of course, in the beginning
there would be gifts and more movies and dinners. Then the comments would start
about how much they enjoy just having a home-cooked meal and just hanging out
at home. How relaxing it is to just stay in.
How going out on a holiday Monday is difficult because of work on
Tuesday which just left Saturday as an OK day. Going out would be reduced further to the bare minimum to tamp down on my complaints of “You don’t take me anywhere.”
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| Mingy, My Adorable Companion |
Marriage is not in my future. Neither is sharing my home with anyone. I am
at a place in my life where having a companion for social activities is all I
require. So what type of man would fit the bill? Here is what I wrote on the
subject on December 31, 2011:
So if you are
independent, unattached, financially responsible, care about your relatives and
pets; date women close to your age, love hanging out, movies, theatre, day
trips, travel and giving back; if you look fairly decent, take care of
yourself, have a live and let live attitude and a sense of humour; if you keep
abreast of what’s going on in the world and at least try to keep up with
technology; if you are not set in your ways and just waiting for death, maybe
we’ll meet sooner than later.
Knowing what I want from a relationship (even one that is
yet to materialize) is half the battle. Learning from my mistakes makes it easier to be upfront in a new relationship. I won’t
settle for less again even if it means being alone but definitely not lonely especially with Mingy (pictured) to keep me company.
Will keep you posted.
